The Window I Opened

 

Sometimes, in life, things go wrong. Our plans fall apart, people hurt us, and we end up feeling broken or lost. And often, when this happens, we look for someone or something to blame. We say it was the situation, the time, or other people who caused our pain. But deep down, if we truly reflect, we’ll realize that maybe, just maybe, we had a part to play too. Imagine a room, your own peaceful space. It’s clean, everything is in its place. You’re safe inside. Then one day, you open the window. Maybe you’re curious. Maybe you just wanted fresh air. Or maybe you wanted a change, to let something new in. And the moment you do, the wind rushes in. It blows the papers off your table, knocks over your favourite photo frame, scatters things everywhere. Suddenly, your neat room is a mess. You’re upset, you’re angry. But can you really blame the wind? After all, it was you who opened the window. This is a simple example, but it says a lot about how life works.

In life, we often make choices, small or big, that open doors to new people, experiences, or paths. Sometimes we allow toxic people into our lives, hoping they’ll change or understand us. Sometimes we take a risk, knowing deep down we’re not ready for the consequences. And when things turn upside down, we feel hurt, betrayed, and disappointed. But if we think clearly, weren’t there signs? Weren’t there moments we could have paused and chosen differently? This thought doesn’t mean we should blame ourselves harshly. It’s not about guilt. It’s about honesty and growth. Accepting that we opened the window doesn’t make us weak. In fact, it makes us wiser. It teaches us that every action has a reaction. It helps us understand that being more careful next time doesn’t mean closing ourselves off completely, but learning when to open that window, how wide to open it, and for how long. This line is also about taking responsibility. When we stop blaming others for all the chaos in our lives, we take back control. We stop being victims and start being learners. We start asking, “What can I learn from this?” instead of “Why did this happen to me?”

So, whether it’s a friendship that went sour, a job that drained your peace, a relationship that left scars, or a mistake that caused regret, ask yourself: did I open the window? And if the answer is yes, forgive yourself. Clean up the mess. Close the window for now, or leave it open just a little next time, but this time, be ready for the wind. Because life will always bring wind, some gentle, some wild. We can't control the wind. But we can learn when to open the window. And that makes all the difference.